The role of a great coach is not to give you solutions to your problems…you already know those. The role of a great coach is to be a catalyst for helping to transforming your problem solving abilities.
This month’s newsletter is a little different. Recently I have been studying the relationship between our spoken words and our wellness. In my research I found an article that provides seven principles which I believe help to bring some of the ideas together in a way that is simple to understand and gives clear suggestions for what we can do to help prevent the illnesses that are a response to the stress in our lives.
Although the suggestions are excellent, my initial response was to recognize that the recommended changes are not always quick in the making. If we are heavily rooted in a particular behavior it can take a lot of time and concentration to consistently use new responses.
My invitation to you this month is to take a few days to reflect upon each principle. Begin by asking yourself several questions in relation to each suggestion. For example, for suggestion 1:
- What do I notice in my body when I don’t speak my feelings?
- What do I notice when I do speak my feelings?
- What keeps me from appropriately speaking my feelings?
- Are there any changes I want to make as a result of this suggestion?
- What would be the first best step?
Then use a similar process for each suggestion. Don’t be hard on yourself as you consider the suggestion. Instead, create a sense of play and discovery as you reflect upon how you are in relationship to the suggestions.
By: Neil Gadihoke
It is now scientifically understood that cells, tissues and organs in the body regularly eavesdrop on our spoken words, thoughts, emotions, frustrations, feelings and dreams. And in response, these biological units change their structure and composition, to either make us well or ill. The art of being well and avoiding illness is contingent on seven simple philosophies.
1. If you don’t want to be ill… Speak Your Feelings Emotions and feelings that are hidden or repressed, end up in illness such as : gastritis, ulcer, lumbar and spinal pains. With time, the repression of the feelings can also degenerate into cancer. Then, we go to a confidante, to share our intimacy, our ‘secrets’, our errors ! The dialogue, the speech, the word, is a powerful remedy and an excellent therapy. But at times this therapy is too late, as we did not express our feelings in time.
2. If you don’t want to be ill…Make Decisions The undecided person remains in doubt, in anxiety, in anguish. Indecision accumulates problems, worries and aggressions. Human history is made up of decisions. The undecided people are victims of gastric ailments, nervous pains and problems of the skin.
3. If you don’t want to be ill… Find Solutions Negative people do not find solutions and they enlarge problems. They prefer lamentation, gossip and pessimism. It is better to light a match than to regret the darkness. We are what we think. The negative thought generates into negative energy, which is transformed into illness.
4. If you don’t want to be ill… Don’t Live By Appearances Who hides reality, pretends, poses and always wants to give the impression of being ‘super cool’, is asking for health troubles. He wants to be seen as perfect and easy going, but is accumulating tons of weight. A bronze statue with feet of clay. There is nothing worse for the health than to live on appearances and facades. These are people with lot of varnish and little root. Their destiny is the pharmacy, the hospital and a never ending pain.
5. If you don’t want to be ill… Accept The refusal of acceptance and the absence of self-esteem, make us alienate ourselves. Being at peace with ourselves and our circumstances is the core of a healthy life. They, who do not accept this; become envious, jealous, imitators, ultra-competitive and destructive. Be accepted, accept that you are accepted; and accept the criticisms. It is wisdom, good sense and therapy.
6. If you don’t want to be ill…Trust Who does not trust, does not communicate; is not open and is not related; can never create deep, lasting and stable relations and does not know true friendships. Without trust and confidence, there is no good relationship. Distrust is a lack of faith in oneself, in the other person and in faith itself.
7. If you don’t want to be ill…Do Not Live Life Sad Good humor. Laughter. Rest. Parties. Holidays. Happiness. Clean jokes. Dirty jokes. These replenish health, well being and bring long life. Happy persons have the gift to improve the environment whenever they live. Good humor saves us from the hands of the doctor. Happiness and laughter is a phenomenal therapy.
Bottomline These seven principles have been formulated by Dr Drauzio Varela, a Brazilian medical practitioner. And established by experiences of many people, to be a fairly accurate guidebook to well being. To conclude, it is so simple. If you want to enjoy good health ….. Speak Your Feelings, Make Decisions, Find Solutions, Don’t Live By Appearances, Accept, Trust and most importantly …. Do Not Live Life Sad.
“What we do with our hearts affects the whole universe….So, how shall we live?” -Marianne Race, CSJ